I woke up yesterday morning, got Sara ready for daycare, and on my morning commute, while listening to the news, I heard the most awful story.
Not too far away, on Camano Island, there was a terrible car accident. A young mother, just 23 years old, went off the roadway, and her van slammed into a tree and burst into flames. She was rescued, but with serious injuries, and her two children inside, a 3 year old and a 5 month old baby, were killed. Not too many details have been released yet about what caused the accident, but apparently it was a winding road, and with recent snowfall and icy conditions in the area, I think she probably lost control and slid off the road.
Being a parent myself, and having a baby that's just about the same age as her youngest, I can't imagine what she and her family are going through. I haven't heard how bad her injuries are, and I don't know if she's awake yet, but I can't imagine what it will be like when she receives the news in the hospital that her babies are dead. I pray that those little ones didn't feel any pain.
This story has been on my mind since I heard it yesterday, and at times has brought me to tears. So quickly, this family has been ruined forever. I just hope that in the coming days, as more details are released, that the internet trolls and keyboard cowboys don't go on a witch hunt for this poor mother, as they did for the family of Lane Graves, another tragic story that brought me to tears this past summer.
Yes, she was the driver, and was probably going too fast for the conditions, but she was just dealt the worst hand you can get. The last thing she needs is strangers all over the world calling her horrible names and driving it in that she's at fault (if she even is, because it's still unknown what even happened.) So I pray that this family is left to grieve in peace without all of the "perfect" people attacking them.
Some other things I've been thinking about if I were in her situation, is how I'd react afterwards. Sara is everything to me. My most precious treasure. If I was driving and had an accident that resulted in her death, I don't think I could deal. I've never had a suicidal thought in my life, but something like that, especially that horrific, could possibly take me there. I don't know. What I do know is that my heart is aching today for this mom and all that know her. Her name was released by the news, and I looked at her Facebook page, and the pictures of her beautiful children, whose lives were ended so abruptly, and I feel nothing but compassion for her, no mater what the circumstances. A family friend also set up a Gofundme for them, to which I donated, but as a fellow mother, I know that it won't make it ok. It will never be ok for her again.
As for the trolls and keyboard cowboys, some just don't get it. As the Bible says,it rains on the just and the unjust. Compassion is what others owe them when THEY err, not the other way around. What a sad story, Lisa, and what a well written post. I teared up a bit myself.ReplyDelete